losing hope....

How can someone you've given your whole trust break it just like that? Someone you thought you can trust your life with, how can that one person that made you happy and complete is the same person who would lie to you and hurt you so much?

I've been in and out of relationships, believing everytime that it's the last... but every single time, it's disappointment after another disappointment. I am the kind of person who can get over anything or anyone just like that but don't get me wrong, When I say I'm inlove or that i'm really into a guy, I really am, it's just that when I see something wrong, I tend to back off right away... (well, that's now, not before, believe me I try to stay in a relationship thinking that the other person would change but in the latter I learned that I shouldn't suffer just because of the other party, that's not how love works).

Love is being honest even if it's going to hurt you or your partner like hell (it's better than finding it out from another person).

There are certain things that I've learned along the path that I took... hope this will be a help to other peeps...

Speak now or forever hold your peace is very, very true. I mean it's better to speak up right away about something that's bothering you. Holding back your true feelings leads straight to resentment, which can harm a relationship over time, no matter how strong it is.

Don't look outside a relationship when you should be nurturing and working on it, I mean we all know that relationships are hard work, but are a lot more fulfilling than whatever physical or emotional band-aid you are considering.

Just because you're in a relatioship, doesn't mean that you aren't on your best behavior. Give thanks and respect where it's due, whether your partner just ran a small errand for you or is offering you full support through a difficult patch. Gratitude and appreciation go a long way.

Don't try and control one another and always respect one another -- youll have a much happier union.

If you would'nt want them to do it to you, don't do it to them. Pretty simple, but everyone seems to forget it too often.

For goodness sakes, have sex. A sexless relationship is a doomed relationship. Have happy sex. Have make-up sex. Have mad sex. Do it even when you don't want to, and watch how close you become. There is no fuss having sex with someone you love wont fix.

Be a decent human being. Hold their hand and surprise them with something they love every so often for no reason at all.

Dont try to be right, try to make things right. If you mess up, admit it, accept it and work to make things better. Egos stay single forever. (I don't know about this one, hell I don't know why I wrote this, but damn if you're right, you're right!!! hehehe, that's my pride talking.)

The key to any relationship is communication -- good dialog, being understanding and addressing concerns and issues as a team. Also, maintaining self respect will help your inner-self grow stronger, and will help in all aspects of your personal, love and even work life.

What I've learned best along that thorny road is that you have to put the relationship first. Its not only your life anymore.

Funny how I can just go all day long and give advices to other people when I, couldn't seem to help myself. Sad but true. =(